I know it feels like your world has been shattered into a million pieces.
💔The betrayal feels unbearable.
💔The pain is intense.
💔The questions are endless.
💔And the person you thought you knew better than anyone feels like a stranger lying next to you.
You find yourself thinking:
💭 How could the person who once surprised me with silly, heartfelt notes turn around and betray my trust?
💭 How could the person who promised to be my rock, my confidant, and my forever choose someone else?
💭 Is the love we shared even real anymore?
💭 Can I ever forgive them? And do I even want to?
And here is the thing: it’s okay to feel this way.
You’ve been blindsided, hurt, and left questioning everything you thought you knew.
But let me tell you something: this doesn’t have to be the end of your story.
Your feelings are valid—all of them. The anger, the sadness, the confusion, the flickers of hope you might feel guilty for even having—it’s all part of the process.
But here’s something you might not believe right now: you haven’t lost the person you married.
Yes, they made a terrible choice.
And yes, they will need to do the hard work to help you two rebuild trust in your relationship. But beneath the pain and mistakes, the person who laughed at your jokes, stayed up late dreaming with you, and saw the real you—they’re still there.
Affair recovery is not an easy process, but true healing is possible.
At Reimagine Love, we don’t sugarcoat things. We don’t excuse affairs, and we don’t sweep emotions under the rug.
But we also DO NOT take sides. We are here to support both of you.
Here’s how:
For You:
We hold space for all the feelings you’re carrying—the heartbreak, the rage, the confusion, and even the moments when you wonder if you’ll ever trust again.
We teach you how to move beyond just “coping”. Together, we’ll unpack where your emotions are coming from, give you tools to work through them, and help you reclaim your voice.
You’ll learn how to:
✔️ Express your needs clearly and without guilt.
✔️ Set boundaries that protect your healing.
✔️ Let go of the anger and the hurt, and experience emotional freedom
For example, if you’ve been replaying every detail of your husband meeting up with his coworker while you were away on a trip with your girlfriends, we’ll work on strategies to stop the mental spiral, focus on what’s within your control, and start rewriting your narrative of what is possible so that you can move forward from an empowered space.
For Your Partner:
We’ll dig deep. They’ll learn how to face their actions head-on and take full accountability—not with half-hearted apologies but with real, meaningful change.
We uncover the driver behind his decisions and offer compassionate direction in helping him heal the trauma that led him to make these decisions.
And we guide him through the uncomfortable emotions he might be avoiding:
- The shame of hurting you.
- The regret for their selfish choices.
- The heartbreak of seeing the pain in your eyes.
But this isn’t just about holding him accountable. It’s about teaching him how to heal the parts of him that led to the affair and helping him learn the skills needed to rebuild trust and reconnect with you.
For Both of You:
Healing from an affair isn’t just about patching things up—it’s about healing the pieces of your relationship that created disconnect, and working to create something better.
The truth is, many of the cracks in a marriage began long before the affair.
Together, we’ll uncover those hidden issues, clean up the debris, and lay a new foundation—one built on honesty, vulnerability, and mutual respect.
Imagine this:
⭐ A marriage where you feel seen, heard, and cherished every day.
⭐ A connection that’s deeper and more fulfilling than you ever thought possible.
⭐ A love that isn’t just surviving but thriving.
It’s not a fairy tale — it’s reality – one that can be yours too. And we’ve seen it happen for so many couples who’ve been exactly where you are now.
You don’t have to face this alone. Healing is possible, and your story is far from over.
Sending you all the love!
About Dr. Shawn Haywood
Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love. She is a classically trained therapist, as well as a life and marriage coach, who loves to work with women and couples to help them heal fully after an affair. Over the past 25 years, she has helped thousands of women move from the cycle of disconnect to one of unbreakable love and connection, while healing fully after infidelity, in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counseling.
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