Episode# 117: Rebuilding trust after infidelity
- Shawn Haywood, PhRD
- Feb 13
- 2 min read
Can love, commitment, and vulnerability turn a broken relationship into an even healthier one? Working through infidelity can be one of the most challenging trials for couples. In this episode, I sat down with host, Angie Sørensen to tackle the intricate process of helping couples recover and rebuild trust after an affair.
We discuss the importance of having one dedicated therapist guide the entire healing journey, rather than multiple individual therapists, and how this approach leads to more successful and quicker recoveries.
In this episode you will learn the common reasons for infidelity, the importance of vulnerability, and how emotional safety creates a foundation for rebuilding relationships.
We dive into the critical 30-60 day period after discovery, methods to handle the initial shock, and strategies for effectively communicating feelings of hurt and disappointment.
We emphasize that healing requires addressing individual traumas and fostering genuine connections. Shawn provides actionable steps and the four-step model to handle any conflict with love and without anger.
overview:
[00:02:58] Introducing guest Shawn Haywood and discussing her work on infidelity
[00:06:19] The shortage of effective programs for infidelity and Shawn's approach
[00:10:47] Infidelity's Complexity
[00:16:42] Infidelity's Root Causes
[00:25:58] Methods to identify genuine remorse and willingness to rebuild the relationship
[00:28:34] Marriage Challenges and Modern Discontent
[00:34:59] The disclosure of the affair
[00:46:18] Strategies for rebuilding trust and moving forward in the relationship
[00:53:15] Avoiding disconnection and maintaining a healthy relationship
[01:06:06] Practical communication techniques to resolve conflict
[01:09:06] Conflict are like Jenga Blocks
[01:14:45] Identifying Self-Disempowerment Patterns
[01:18:28] Final thoughts on the importance of addressing personal issues and growth
[01:26:44] Wrapping up and providing information on where to find more resources and help
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About Dr. Shawn Haywood
Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love. She is a classically trained therapist, as well as a life and marriage coach, who loves to work with women and couples to help them heal fully after an affair. Over the past 25 years, she has helped thousands of women move from the cycle of disconnect to one of unbreakable love and connection, while healing fully after infidelity, in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counseling.
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